After more research, stunnel and blue iris now working on IOS 13.4.1

sslVersion = TLSv1.2 <--- added this to stunnel.conf

[BlueIris]
accept=1440
connect=192.168.0.2:8080 <---- tried 8080 failed, tried 127.0.0.1 failed
cert = stunnel.pem

Like I said not an expert,